A Response to the OFC Study

so, i just came across this article in an OFC update-thingy on myspace from a few months ago, and i'm reading along, and i'm realizing that bisexuals are NOWHERE in the article or in the research strategy used in the study that the article discusses. oh, wait, excuse me - there we are as the B in "an idea of LGBT families" and there's the whole damn word in "San Francisco Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender Community Center". nonetheless, there is no discussion of the reality that queers in opposite sex couples are raising kids in queer community, too, or that some of the queers in the same sex couples demographic discussed might not be lesbian or gay. and nope, trans families are not mentioned either. what the hell? bisexuals and transfolk are raising kids, too, and many of us are raising them in queer community. why, then, are we consistently excluded by so much of the dialogue, research, media, et cetera spinning out of, around, and ostensibly for lgBT families? my kid is going to experience marginalization in 87 different ways - as female, as non-white, as mixed, as the child of an escaped working class and chronically ill ma, and yes, as queerspawn, among others. it disappoints and infuriates me that she is likely to also be marginalized within queer community as the child of bisexuals. i'm showing up, people. i'm trying to contribute, but shit like this just makes me want to go the hell home and stay.

(posted by janine)