Love and Intimacy

This month's topic has been Love and Intimacy. Our Saturday morning meeting a week ago really reminded me that it is important to take that extra effort to express affection for my partner even on days when I am just so exhausted and "touched out". Most of what I have read in terms of child development says that witnessing one's parents express their love for one another helps our children feel more secure and also to learn what intimacy in a relationship is.

I would have to add that expressing my love and affection for my husband is especially important on days when we have been bickering or have had a disagreement. Sadie can then see that even though her parents may not agree with each other, we still love each other and can work things out.

This coming Saturday's meeting wil focus on how we talk to our children about love and intimacy. What are your ideas? What has worked or not worked for you? If your child is a bit young for "formal" conversation, what aspects of this subject do you feel more or less comfortable with?

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In other related matters, I just watched a scary documentary on Gay "Conversion". It frightens me that parents are willing to send their 15 year olds away from home to stay at month long conversion programs and then call that choice parental love. I feel sad for these children who will grow up with such unnecessary self-loathing and shame. What are your thoughts?

(submitted by Shelli)